First date conversations are like great opening lines in a book …
… Their sole purpose is to make you read the next line.
Or, in the case of dating, the only reason for the creation of great conversations first date is to get that second date. Or at least to the point where it is the user (and not them) by choosing if you want to go on a second date.
So how do you create great conversations first date that will almost guarantee a second date?
1. Practice
2. Big Questions
3. Know Your Goal
PRACTICE DATE BEFORE your conversations
Well, this is true for your conversations are really up. But it is more important than a conversation first date, because that’s where you feel more pressure to ‘perform’.
As every situation under pressure, if you have not practiced enough in front, you’re more likely to break under the strain! (Dating is much more difficult than some would have you believe.)
So do not go looking around the net for 101 great questions to ask, 1001 Open witty conversation or 1.1 million things to say to your date to bring on a second date.
Just take No. 1 thing. And practice it. Until you master.
Then take the next thing, and practice. Until you master.
They were right when they said practice makes perfect!
Be great dating conversation is a skill. And the main reason for the majority of people fail to get good at it because it is overwhelmed with all the things that need doing. So forget about mastering all at once. Just pick one thing and practice until it is quite natural for you. Then move on to the next one.
FIRST PRACTICE WHAT? Major issues
Major issues are the foundation of all great conversations appointments. If master only some big questions, then the rest of the conversation is likely that the flow so much more smoothly.
Why? Because the questions are like driving any conversation. And a big question leads to a longer, more interesting, more fun conversation.
So what are some great questions to ask? Here are five. Remember, I do not want to overwhelm you with hundreds – because practice and mastering is more important than having hundreds at your disposal.
Thus, after its initial introduction and talk, change gear with these questions …
1. So, tell me, what do you like doing in your spare time?
2. What is it about that you love so much?
3. I was out today looking for a vacation to go ahead this year, but I am very puzzled about where to go. What is the best vacation you’ve been away?
4. You’ve seen great films recently?
5. What are your favorite TV shows at the moment?
Remember, pick one and practice. You can practice these with friends, with colleagues, with your family. Do not wait for the next date first to get some practice in
KNOW YOUR TARGET
Ultimately your goal is to get the chance of a second date. But how?
Well, what would make you want to go out with the person sitting in front of you? We accept that we might like physically, because you’re going on a date with them. What would need to happen on that date to make you think: ‘Yes, I’d go on another date with them’.
The answer?
You had a great time together.
If your partner finds you attractive and had a great time with you, you definitely want that second date. So your real goal is to ensure them a great time on your first date.
To do this from the point of view of the conversation you must make sure that they are talking about and re-live the experiences they have enjoyed in the past. Because when we talk about things that we have enjoyed, we re-experience those good feelings.
if gears with these questions …
1. So, tell me, what do you like doing in your spare time?
2. What is it about that you love so much?
3. I was out today looking for a vacation to go ahead this year, but I am very puzzled about where to go. What is the best vacation you’ve been away?
4. You’ve seen great films recently?
5. What are your favorite TV shows at the moment?
Remember, pick one and practice. You can practice these with friends, with colleagues, with your family. Do not wait for the next date first to get some practice in