Been dumped? Feeling a little bruised, hurt or let down? Try the revenge makeover to make you feel and heal better after a relationship has broken up badly. Ivana Trump is once said to had uttered the words ‘looking good is the best revenge’ – and we couldn’t agree with her more. If you work on being healthy and feeling great, it shows in your appearance, so after the initial tears and self-medicating with lots of chocolate cake, it’s time to turn things around and start focusing on your future self.
We have seen countless Hollywood celebrities re-invent themselves after relationship meltdowns – after a couple of months they re-emerge on the red carpet in slinky couture gowns looking sleek, chic and perfectly primped. There’s no reason you can’t channel the celebrity method of looking gorgeous and feeling good following a messy parting – here’s how to gain the sweetest revenge on your ex in four easy steps…
Delete him
You don’t want constant reminders of your ex dropping into your life, unsettling and upsetting you just when you were beginning to feel stronger. So delete their number from your phone, un-follow them on all social media and make the decision in your mind to move on. You are no longer sharing your lives, so make things easier on yourself and simply wipe away all trace of him. This also extends to your home, remove reminders of him. A complete decorating overhaul can be a real tonic, why not refresh the interior of your home at the same time as yourself? Design and decorate a scheme that is uplifting and totally centred around what you want – our environment directly influences how we feel so to maximise positive feelings, make sure your home has plenty of natural light and use vibrant, mood enhancing shades such as red, orange, green and turquoise.
Love yourself
Maybe he doesn’t love you any more, but self-love is far more important. When a relationship falls apart self-esteem and confidence can take a nosedive, so be kind to yourself. Feeling good emotionally, spiritually, psychologically and mentally is all part of the healing process and sometimes it may feel like a long and painful road. You are not alone in your suffering so talk to others who have been through the same experience – the moral support is invaluable. Don’t waste negative energy on bitterness about what has occurred, it’s better to get healthy and happy rather than angry. Change the things you can change, leave behind the bad stuff that makes you sad.
Get sociable
If you have been in a couple for a long time, going out as a single person may be difficult at first. Re-learning the ropes of singledom needn’t be too daunting, take a friend along for support. Joining a club to meet a new circle of friends is a great idea – whether that’s a sports association, special interests club or some other activity, having a new interest with no connection to your ex is an important step in moving on.
Look fantastic
Nothing boosts confidence more than looking great. Stock up the cupboards with healthy foods, fill the fridge with low fat eats and plenty of fruit and veg – your healthy new regime will show outwardly in your complexion. Give your skin an even greater radiance boost with some non surgical beauty treatments. Try Qutis Clinics for a range of non-invasive skin fixes aimed to reduce wrinkles and fine lines, problem excess hair or simply dull skin. A professional beauty treatment at Qutis Clinics will leave you feeling pampered, pretty and proud of your new appearance. Follow treatments up with a fab new haircut and some new flattering outfits, and the future alone suddenly seems far less bleak. Soon the compliments will come flooding in and your self-esteem will be riding high once again.
When relationships break down, people get hurt, there’s no denying it. But the way you react to events is key to how you survive long term emotionally and physically. Feeling defeated, broken and lost is totally normal, but sooner or later you need to re-engage with the world again. You are in control of how you respond to these circumstances, so take the reins and start making some positive moves. Being single again is the perfect opportunity to re-invent and re-energise your life so get out there and meet the challenge. Revenge sometimes has negative connotations because it’s seen as a harbouring of bitterness, but as a motivator and trigger for getting you back on track, it’s an effective tool. As long as you let all feelings of bitterness go, used wisely, the concept of the revenge makeover is a good way of galvanising you into action following tough times…